We all have heard news and stories about physical abuse. But, what about the secluded and hidden form of violence that resides amongst us. Mental abuse, this is a form of abuse which can be even more dangerous than a physical one. As the author quotes – “Where he hits at your soul and your self-esteem.”
In the book, Maddy is this beautiful, ingenuous girl who has been saved by Jack, her current husband, from years of physical abuse. But things go haywire when she realizes that she is still being abused,not physically but mentally. Jack doesn’t display any form of physical torture, but directly attacks her mind and soul. He makes her feel that he owns her and she is his puppet. The book is a beautiful “journey” of Maddy’s life, how she overcomes all the shortcomings and inner-fears and sets herself free. It really inspires you to understand that before anything else, you should learn to put your happiness first. And to find your inner-self, do things that you genuinely love and walk past everything that will bring you down.
Some of us might have gone through a similar ordeal. The most important thing you need to do is accept that you are being mentally abused. Such abusers appear as normal humans to the society. But, they demean the victim, make him/her feel abashed of themselves, disrespect and belittle the victim. Whenever the victim tries to take a stand against it, the abuser makes the victim feel as if it’s his/her fault and that the abuser is a victim. People need to realize this kind of behavior and take a stand against it.
It’s not about a man or a woman. Any person can be a victim of mental abuse. Rather than putting up with people who are a chaos to your mind, find the peace that your mind deserves. Now-a-days, we blindly believe in certain things and people around us. That, this is what you’ve been destined for. Maybe it is, but if it’s not then you need to decide for yourself. Learn to discern the thin line between what makes you and what breaks you. We get adhered to things just so easily, to words, to promises, to acts, to faces, to bodies. Maybe we just need find something that our soul gets annexed to!
Nobody, let me repeat, NOBODY has the right to make you feel worthless. There are times when the best choice you make is walking away. It’s a difficult one, but it’s what you have to do for your own happiness. You need to part away from things and people that won’t ever do good to you. It is scary, but you need to understand your self-worth and that realize that you deserve so much better. You, yourself need to rattle the cages and set yourself free. And have the belief that in this JOURNEY, you’ll eventually come across people who will make it worthwhile.
Just find that smothering fire inside you and let its fierceness define you.